My husband Darryl

Friday 6 September, 2013 by Jenny

My husband Darryl was diagnosed with pancreatitis on 18 September 2010 and gradually developed major chronic pancreatitis.

It's difficult to determine why, when a cause is unknown, as he did not drink, nor did he have his gallbladder. He'd often remarked to the specialists 'I'm not likely to get cancer from this am I?' and each time they said 'No'.

Darryl's quiltIt wasn't until the 6 March 2013 that he was diagnosed with liver cancer and possibly the primary source was pancreatic but due to the chronic pancreatitis they couldn't confirm it - but they had their suspicions.

Due to the chronic pancreatitis he became a type 2 diabetic and also developed blood clots from his swollen legs, which moved to his lungs. His weight plummeted from 85kg down to 59kg and at the end he was just skin covering bone.

He wasn't confirmed to have pancreatic cancer until 27 June 2013 after demanding to get another test, as for 2 years he had a barrage of CTs, MRIs, scans, blood tests etc. and nothing had shown up.

He had his 60th birthday in July - his birthday party was on a Saturday and he passed away on the Monday. He was the love of my life, my best friend and my soul mate, and I miss him dearly. We were married for almost 37 years.

I have created in his honour a tribute page on this website and am also involved in Relay for Life in his honour.

I have a huge support network and am very grateful. Before he passed away, every day I had to get up at 5.15am - get myself ready then get him out of bed and get him dressed then off to work I would go. Our daughter looked after him through the day and when I got home at night I took over. I also cared for him on weekends.

I have started making a 'Memory' quilt (pictured) in his honour, with all of his ties as he had quite a few. Each time I sew a bit more it brings tears to my eyes.

Thanks for your patience and for reading my story. 

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Updated: 06 Sep, 2013