Christmas can be difficult for people who have experienced a major change or loss in their life.
Feelings of loneliness, isolation and sadness are common and Christmas traditions can be painful reminders of how different life has become.
If you have been diagnosed with cancer, are caring for someone or have lost someone special to cancer, we hope these tips may help you make the most of the upcoming holiday season.
Top tips
Adjust your expectations
Discuss with your family and friends what you are able to manage and then make a plan. Make a list of things you can do and what people can do to assist.
Be gentle with yourself
Give yourself permission to celebrate the best way you can. Try to accept any changes and be kind to yourself and your family.
Celebrate in new ways
If your usual rituals or traditions are no longer possible or do not feel right, consider replacing them with new ones.
Keep it simple
Consider not hosting celebrations especially if you or your loved one has treatment planned during this time. Ask another family member or friend to be the host, book a restaurant or arrange a picnic instead.
Seek support
Talking to someone about your feelings can reduce feelings of sadness and isolation. Family and friends can be a good source of support.
Our fact sheet ‘ Special Occasions and Celebrations ’ provides additional information or please call our cancer information and support line on 13 11 20 to speak to one of our nurses.
Ruby Hart, Head of Cancer Information and Support Services at Cancer Council Victoria, encouraged anyone needing support to reach out to their loved ones or to call Cancer Council 13 11 20.
“Our experienced cancer nurses are available to anyone affected by cancer and needing support during the summer holidays,” she said.
“At this time of year we hear from people who are worried that their feelings and emotions may dampen the celebrations for others, or that they may experience frustrating delays in appointments, treatments and results over this period.
“The holiday season is tough not only for those living with cancer, but also for family and friends who can find it difficult to celebrate without a loved one.”
Ms Hart said there was also the Cancer Council Online Community, a safe and supportive online site for patients, their carers and families. Through blogs, discussion forums and support groups, members can discuss their experiences and share stories, tips and coping strategies to help normalise concerns and reduce social isolation.
“An increasing number of people are seeking peer support through digital forums to connect with others who can relate to what they are experiencing, which is particularly important over this time of year.”
Support is available to anyone affected by cancer – those diagnosed, family, friends, and carers – Monday to Friday, 9am-5pm, excluding public holidays.
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