Staying strong (continued)

Tuesday 24 November, 2009 by darren

My soul mate, Lynne, after a hard battle from my last story, managed to last another 11 months. Against the odds she seemed to make a recovery.

Lynne responded really well to her oral treatment, Xleoda, which gave her a good quality of life until she was told by the doctor to stop taking it, as it had stopped working. Then her problems started again.

She had a lot of pain in her bones and ended up in the palliative care unit where they got her pain under control. She was then discharged only to be readmitted in to the hospital with constipation. The nurse that admitted her from home said it would only be for a few days. But suddenly they found a new lump under Lynne's chest.

She was not strong enough to undergo surgery so she was then sent to the palliative care unit, and later that day, around 3pm on the 18/11/2009, the nurse advised me to bring our 3 children to say their final good byes to Lynne.

The last words Lynne spoke to her children was ‘Happy birthday, Isabella, for tomorrow’, and Isabella said ‘Thank you’. She then said ‘Love you’ and all the children said ‘Bye Mum’, as I had someone collect the children so I could stay with her.

Lynne had stayed awake to speak with her children and for them to hug her and say they loved her and she replied that she loved them, and those were the last words she spoke to the children.

Just after the children left Lynne fell asleep. Lynne woke a few hours later and with help from me managed to get her name on Isabella’s birthday card. She then kissed the card and I made a mark where she kissed it. Isabella kissed the card where her mum had kissed it, then Lynne fell asleep, not to wake again.

Lynne lost her fight with breast cancer on 19/11/09 at 5:45AM. This day was a special day for our family, as it’s our youngest daughter Isabella's 4th birthday.

At that time I had said ‘You’re a fantastic mom, and a fantastic wife. It’s been an honour to share your life with you. If you would like to go, I will let you go.’ She grunted, and then I felt her last breath go. She died comfortable in my arms, knowing she was loved.

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Updated: 24 Nov, 2009